Written by: Gary Wonning
During a group discussion yesterday, a colleague of mine relayed an incident of when he was six years old. It seems he grew up in a tough neighborhood and was continuously beaten up every day on his way home from school by a group of five brothers.
One day while running home from school, the brothers started chasing him, immediately sensing danger, he made a dash for the side door of his house. Grabbing the door knob and expecting to reach the sanctuary of home , he found the door locked. Seeing his father inside he began yelling for his dad to open the door.
His father replied,”Sorry, I can’t do that son, you have to learn how to handle this problem on your own.” Turning around he saw the five brothers coming at him with a vengeance. It was now or never, so picking out the smallest of the brothers, the one he thought he could possibly take down, they immediately began to fight.
The battle became extremely violent and bitter with neither one willing to give up. After a what seemed long battle a truce was reached and the conflict ended. As soon as the wounds healed, they became best of friends and there would be no more fights.
His mother was very unhappy with dad, however, dad and son finally convinced her of the wisdom of the choice and life went on, despite the torn clothing. Because of this incident, the son learned much about life that he could not have been taught any other way.
This happened many years ago, before political correctness. In today’s world the father would have probably been sued for child abuse. What a shame.
Now, I’m not one to advocate violence, but as a youth I had been involved in similar circumstances, and even as an adult, although it didn’t come to blows, I have had a couple occasions where major conflicts have arisen.
In all cases, when the conflict was solved to the mutual agreement of all concerned , we have become good friends. We are all human beings, a part of the animal kingdom, and like it or not, there is and always will be a pecking order. that is a fact of nature, nothing will ever change that.
As we go through life, in all relationships, boundaries are established. In most cases, these boundaries can be established by peaceful means. However, there will always be times when as a last resort, we must take drastic measures.
This is true, not only on a personal level but a world level as well. We must remember there are some people who don’t like us, and even some who would like to do us in, that will never change.
In today’s world, often times kids are pampered and every little problem is solved for them by some well meaning adult. Little does this adult realize how much they are harming the child by not letting them solve their own problems.
How is this person going to learn to solve the many problems of adulthood if they are denied the privilege of learning this as a child when the consequences are a lot less? In our zeal to establish a perfect society, we have forgotten the basic principle of life. Each and every person has to be responsible for themselves and be able to take care of themselves.
When we deny them that important learning lesson, we are doing them a great disservice, it actually does them a tremendous amount of harm by not teaching them to be self-reliant.
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The author has been a writer/ photographer for over 20 years, specializing in nature, landscapes and studying native cultures. Besides visiting most of the United States, he has traveled to such places as Egypt, the Canary Islands, much of the Caribbean. He has studied the Mayan Cultures in Central America and the Australian Aboriginal way of life.Photography has given him the opportunity to observe life in many different parts of the world!
He has published several books about the various cultures he has observed.
For more information and a link to his hardcover and Ebooks, and contact information: please check his website, http://www.journeysthrulife.com.
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There is an extreme shortage of common sense in today’s world, When looking back in history, I soon discovered this has always been a problem, Benjamin Franklin once said, ”Of all the senses, common sense seems to be the one that is used the least.” As obvious as it may seem, many seem to be totally oblivious to it. Most, if not all of the problems the world faces today could be solved if people would just sit back and think about what would seem to be the most obvious and simple solution to any issue. Often times people tend to overcomplicate the issues. I often think back to what my parents and grandparents believed and said, at the time I thought they were totally out of their mind and ignored it. I now wish I would have listened and followed their advice. It is now evident they were a lot smarter than we gave them credit for. Many times, in today’s world, the schools and universities can no longer be counted on to teach truth and values that will guide someone through life.