once in awhile one has an epiphany, it suddenly hit me last week while
serving jury duty. It was going to be a trial concerning domestic
violence, a situation that occurs far to often in today’s society.
defense attorney , a woman , was defending an African -American male
accused of pushing his girl friend, a misdemeanor charge. Dancing around
the race and gender ,issue the attorney asked in a roundabout way if
gender or race would be an issue.
, out of nowhere, a couple of women from the pool of possible jurors
engaged in the typical diatribe about how society had gotten past the
stereotype of women remaining barefoot and pregnant and their place was
in the home.
became apparent that in their minds at least, anyone who thought that
was someone whose thought process was still in the 1950’s, and was very
judgmental, narrow minded and sexist.
someone who has lived through all of this, that statement is
preposterous. I realize that years ago, many opportunities that are
available for women today didn’t exist. During the last several years
women have been able to have careers and enjoy other lifestyles than
were previously unavailable to them.
of these opportunities came about because often times men were forced
to step aside and denied jobs based on gender.This is a fact. During
these times, if a man , or woman voiced an opinion other than the
popular thought of the day, they were shouted down and embarrassed, not
only by friends and acquaintances, but by the media as well.
reality, there is nothing wrong if a woman wants or needs to have a
career.In today’s world many women need to have a career in order to
support their children because of divorce and other factors. There is
nothing wrong with this, if that is what they want to do then do it.
, not all women want to work, the feminists need to realize that not
everyone thinks like them or have the same desires in life. If a woman
doesn’t want to work outside the home, or if a husband doesn’t want his
wife to work, that doesn’t delegate them to Neanderthal status.
is a matter of personal choice, and in many ways it is the natural
order of things. In nature , men are the providers and women are the
caretakers, that is the way we were designed. I know I am going to be
criticized heavily for this and probably be called every name in the
book by open minded liberals, but it is true.
the process of trying to make everyone equal and the same , society has
created a monster. In today’s world , many men are afraid to be men,
and women are afraid to be women. Often times people of both genders are
lead to believe they have to accept a lifestyle they don’t want, just
because it is the popular thing to do.
a parent, especially a mother, is the most important occupation in the
world. A parent’s main responsibility is to mold their children into
responsible citizens of the future. Their job is to instill a value
system that will lead them to a happy and successful life,this is a
responsibility that shouldn’t be left to a baby sitter or daycare.
Neither one, regardless of how good and well intentioned they are, will
teach your child the values and morals you have. Many of today’s world
and national problems lead back to the fact that children are raising
themselves.Maybe people need to decide if they want a career or
children, if you want, desire, or need both, you must remember that
raising your children comes first.
today’s world, many opportunities are open to people of all social
categories, it is your choice as to which one you choose, but I believe
it is important to decide what one gives up to accomplish your goals,
there are choices, but with choices come responsibility and sacrifice.
Often times the high paying and prestigious careers are only attained by
sacrificing something from your personal life, only you can decide if
it is worth it.
you can decide , not some bureaucrat or news commentator. You have to
decide if the sacrifices you are making is worth it, and if it comes as a
detriment to your family and children.In the end family is still the
most important part of our lives and children need both their parents.
But you are the only one who can decide if the sacrifice is worth it.
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