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and I are in a relationship, which I value and want to keep. Yet each
of us is a separate person with unique needs and the right to meet those
you are having problems meeting your needs I will listen with genuine
acceptance so as to facilitate your finding your own solutions instead
of depending on mine. I also will respect your right to choose your own
beliefs and develop your own values, different though they may be from
when your behavior interferes with what I must do to get my own needs
met, I will tell you openly and honestly how your behavior affects me,
trusting that you respect my needs and feelings enough to try to change
the behavior that is unacceptable to me. Also, whenever some behavior of
mine is unacceptable to you, I hope you will tell me openly and
honestly so I can change my behavior.
those times when one of us cannot change to meet the other’s needs, let
us acknowledge that we have a conflict and commit ourselves to resolve
each such conflict without either of us resorting to the use of power to
win at the expense of the other’s losing. I respect your needs, but I
also must respect my own. So let us always strive to search for a
solution that will be acceptable to both of us. Your needs will be met,
and so will mine – neither will lose, both will win.
this way, you can continue to develop as a person through satisfying
your needs, and so can I. Thus, ours can be a healthy relationship in
which both of us can strive to become what we are capable of being. And
we can continue to relate to each other with mutual respect, love and
Dr. Thomas Gordon
Gary has been a writer/ photographer for over 20 years, specializing in nature,landscapes and studying native cultures.Besides visiting most of the United States, he has traveled to such places as Egypt,the Canary Islands,much of the Caribbean, and studied Mayan Cultures in Central America, and the Australian Aboriginal way of life.Photography has given him the opportunity to observe life in many different cultures!
He has published several books about the various cultures he has studied and applied what he has learned to solving the many issues facing not only the United States, but the world as well.
Common Sense solutions to complex problems.
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