There is much said today about bullying. Everyone gets upset and says it must stop. I agree it would be nice if it did, but don’t hold your breath.
We are human beings and part of the animal kingdom , like it or not there is a pecking order. Bullying to some extent will always be with us. That’s not to say we shouldn’t try to stop it, but when reality sets in , we need to realize that our kids simply can’t be watched twenty four hours a day and they need to learn to fend for themselves.
Many times at school, teachers get the blame when someone gets bullied. I agree , teachers should make every effort to stop it, but again they aren’t always in sight of what is going on. I’m sure if any of us think back to our school days, we remember waiting until the teacher walked out of the room before committing our acts of mischief. What makes you think it is different today?
Today, one big difference , bullying in a lot of instances is a lot more severe. Because of the lack of discipline and general disregard of the rights of other , many times kids can be assaulted by many people at one time, and much more severely than in the past .
Also , because of political correctness, many times the perpetrators are not held accountable we might hurt their feelings. We often excuse them for a supposed bad childhood. I got news for you, no one ever had a perfect childhood.
We often forget the victims feelings may have been hurt also, he or she may also have had a bad childhood. The victim suffers while the perpetrators are almost held in rock star status. This has only made it worse, the bully now knows they can get away with it , and the victim often has no recourse, if they do anything to defend themselves it then becomes a hate crime.
Having said all of that, kids need to learn how to stand up for themselves, and the only way they can do that is to learn how to deal with bullying on an individual basis. There was bullying when we were kids and we had to deal with it. There wasn’t always someone around to protect us and there isn’t when we grow up. I was a runt growing up , and I learned there are many techniques to put them in their tracks.
I came home from school in the first grade and told my dad someone was picking on me. I’m not sure why I bothered , I knew what he was going to say, but I thought I would give it a shot anyway. He just looked at me rather sternly and said,”Son I can’t be there to protect you all the time, you’re just going to have to learn how to handle it yourself.”
Best thing he ever told me.
In spite of it all, I only ever hit two kids, bloodying their noses. They both took off running and crying and they never bothered me again.
Most bullies are cowards, and if confronted they will back down.They are just like some tin horn dictators, they only pick on the weak, or whom they perceive to be weak. Often times it only takes a comment to make them back off. Showing fear never does, that only makes matters worse.
When these children reach maturity, and get out into the world, many times will they face adversity and danger. How will they know how to deal with it if they haven’t learned when they were younger? Kids need to know how to deal with all kinds of people, there will be no one there when they get out into the world.
If they are continuously protected and kept out of harms way,they aren’t going to know how to fend for themselves. They will have no coping skills since they have never dealt with adversity when they were younger when it was easier to learn.
Their solution will often be to go running off to the doctor or therapist for a prescription of drugs to help ease them through their trauma, a trauma that wouldn’t be there if they had learned how to defend themselves and thus bolster their self esteem and confidence.
They then become addicted to drugs thinking drugs will solve all their problems and falling into the trap of depending less upon themselves and more on an outside source.
Bullying is just another example of people wanting government do something that only we can do for ourselves. You cannot legislate bullying. The best way to stop it is to stand up to the bully and show them to be the cowards they really are. Most times there will be no violence, and you will find that once the threat is eliminated , the two people will become best of friends. That won’t happen if people intervene. The wounds just get deeper.
Bottom line, as with most issues in today’s world, we need to get government out of our lives so we can chart our own destiny.
Gary has been a writer/ photographer for over 20 years, specializing in nature,landscapes and studying native cultures.Besides visiting most of the United States, he has traveled to such places as Egypt,the Canary Islands,much of the Caribbean, and studied Mayan Cultures in Central America, and the Australian Aboriginal way of life.Photography has given him the opportunity to observe life in many different cultures!
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