Recently there was a situation in Michigan where an individual boarded an Amtrak train and stabbed four people.
I saw a post this morning where a family member stated that he needed help and he has never been the same since returning from military service.
I think it’s pretty obvious he needs help, but the question is, why?
The rigors of war can be traumatic, and I understand why soldiers returning may need some counseling, but where are the family members? I will never forget the scene in Crocodile Dundee where Sue was talking about seeing a counselor. Mick asked why she was doing that, and she replied,”To talk over her problems.”
Mik responded, “ Why would you do that? That’s what I have a mate for?” Good point.
But the issue goes even deeper. For generations we have had troops returning from war and although many did suffer mental problems and need assistance returning to civilian life because of the horrors they have see, I don’t think it has ever approached the levels we see today.
I believe there are several reasons for that.
First off, a lot of kids today are raised believing they are entitled to everything their heart desires. Early on in life they are programmed into believing they are “special”.While this is good up to a point, they also need a reality check occasionally and need to learn you don’t get a prize just for living.
Participation trophies lead them to think they don’t have to work to be rewarded. They never learn that failure is a part of life, every one fails more than they succeed. A professional baseball player can earn millions by striking out, failing, two times out of three.
Many times well meaning parents send grandparents wish lists for Christmas, and well meaning grandparents, maybe even with a tige of guilt because they can’t be there in person at Christmas, check something off the list and send it to them. Little Johnny gets everything he wants, with no emotional attachment to the person who gave it whatsoever.
Unsuspectingly, we have all contributed to the entitlement philosophy.
Most young people have been taught no coping skills, every time an issue presents itself, some well meaning adult steps in and takes care of it for them, thereby cancelling any good learning experience the child may have learned.
Wouldn’t it be better to let the youngster try to figure it out on his own, and only helping if he gets in a real jam, by giving advice, instead of money or doing it for them.
By bailing out our kids every time they get in a jam, we are depriving them of real learning experiences which would help them when life throws a curve at them. My dad and mom always told me, “You were smart enough to get into this mess, I’m sure you’re smart enough to get out of it.”
Man! I hated it when they told me that, but you know what? They were right. I didn’t realize it at the time, but they were there , supporting me every minute of the day. But they were in the background helping in ways I never realized. Just their confidence in my ability to solve the problem was all I really needed.
Also, many kids and adults alike no longer have a belief in a Supreme Being. Because of this they put their trust in government or drugs and alcohol.When both fail them, they don’t have anywhere to turn and the end result can only be disaster.
In the end the reason so many returning veterans have issues in life are no different than many of the challenges the average citizen faces.
Another issue facing the vet, he or she often wonders what they are really fighting for. In the wars previous to Korea, we fought the war and defeated the enemy. We came home victorious and fought to win.
In today’s world , the troops go into combat with one arm tied behind their back and a lawyer on each side.
We no longer fight to win wars, we, as a country take an excuse me attitude. Going to war is a serious undertaking, many lives are going to be lost. But once that decision is made we go in to win. All is fair in love and war. There are winners and losers , we need to be a winner.
The current policy leaves troops confused, why are they giving up their lives for something when the government, the press and others aren’t supporting them wholeheartedly?
We will always and rightfully so have dissent. That is a good thing in a free society, but it has become the custom in recent years to support and uphold the ones in society who would destroy and tear down the defenders of liberty, while throwing the defenders under the bus, and we wonder why the veterans have issues.
Gary has been a writer/ photographer for over 20 years, specializing in nature,landscapes and studying native cultures.Besides visiting most of the United States, he has traveled to such places as Egypt,the Canary Islands,much of the Caribbean. He has studied the Mayan Cultures in Central America, and the Australian Aboriginal way of life.Photography has given him the opportunity to observe life in many different parts of the world!
He has published several books about the various cultures he has observed.
For more information and a link to his hard cover and Ebooks,and contact information: please check his website, http://www.journeysthrulife.com.
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There is an extreme shortage of common sense in today’s world, When looking back in history, I soon discovered this has always been a problem, Benjamin Franklin once said, ”Of all the senses, common sense seems to be the one that is used the least.” As obvious as it may seem, many seem to be totally oblivious to it. Most, if not all of the problems the world faces today could be solved if people would just sit back and think about what would seem to be the most obvious and simple solution to any issue. Often times people tend to overcomplicate the issues. I often think back to what my parents and grandparents believed and said, at the time I thought they were totally out of their mind and ignored it. I now wish I would have listened and followed their advice. It is now evident they were a lot smarter than we gave them credit for. Many times, in today’s world, the schools and universities can no longer be counted on to teach truth and values that will guide someone through life.